YOUNG MEN ARE NOT FOR OLD WOMEN (IS THAT FAIR?)

YOUNG MEN ARE NOT FOR OLD WOMEN

 (IS THAT FAIR?)

By: Eka Novita Damayanti

            It was Saturday, I was all alone at home, did not have anything to do. I grabbed the television remote control and started browsing programs. It was hot news they were talking about. Two couples were separated after four years of togetherness. I would prefer not to mention their names, since I am sure everybody knows it.

The woman claimed accumulation of problems they’re facing during the relationship made her take the decision.  She should not mention what the problems really are, since people understand already. Yes, it the age. The woman is fifteen years older than the man. Everybody has given their opinion upon their relationship. This kind of phenomena is unacceptable in our society.

At the beginning of their relationship, they probably did not care about what people said, but as the time goes on, the woman finally gave up. She could not take the pressure of the public as well as big family of her boy friend’s that wanted her to leave. The family wanted him to find girls of his age to settle down.

I began to think that people always consider a young woman is for old men but not the contrary. And a mother would feel embarrassed if her son marries to a older lady that was married before instead of a young girl that has not been married. It is really unfair. Why even women do such unfair treatment to them? Why men always win everything? Don’t they understand that even Prophet Muhammad SAW, himself, married to Khadijah who was fifteen years older and they had such a happy family?

Being more curious, I went asking a friend, and this friend answered me that women would prefer older men mostly than younger men since they want to have a secure life. They want those men to take care of them, to protect them away from harm and to spoil them. These qualities are hardly could be found in younger men since youngsters usually want others to listen to what they want, but hardly have time to listen to others’.

Further investigation of mine lead me to another reason is that women worried young men would not appreciate their relationship as it has to be, since young men do not care at all about it but their money. Soon after they have what they want from the women, they would leave them miserable.

In order to have sufficient answered, again, I went asking another friend the following day. It was still the same question I asked her and her answer was the same. Women should not marry younger men since all they want is not love but money!!  What rather shocked me was her saying that naturally, women looks a bit older than men and people would laugh them for that. They would say that he should be her younger brother rather than her husband or boy friend.

So, which one would you choose? To marry younger men, or older men? The decision is yours. I believe everybody has their own preference plus a good reason why they choose it.  It is them to live their life and to have all the sequences. For me, I would rather to choose a man that is about four or five years older than me, not more than that. Not because I am afraid of people’s opinion about me, but there are things in life I want to do like traveling to see beautiful places around the world and have some kids. However, I also believe in a true relationship requires understanding, wisdom and thoughtful rather than physical contacts. This would be a reason I do not choose a man that is much younger than me. That is what I believe.