YOUNG MEN ARE NOT FOR OLD WOMEN
(IS THAT FAIR?)
By: Eka Novita Damayanti
It
was Saturday, I was all alone at home, did not have anything to do. I grabbed
the television remote control and started browsing programs. It was hot news
they were talking about. Two couples were separated after four years of
togetherness. I would prefer not to mention their names, since I am sure
everybody knows it.
The
woman claimed accumulation of problems they’re facing during the relationship made
her take the decision. She should not
mention what the problems really are, since people understand already. Yes, it
the age. The woman is fifteen years older than the man. Everybody has given
their opinion upon their relationship. This kind of phenomena is unacceptable
in our society.
At
the beginning of their relationship, they probably did not care about what
people said, but as the time goes on, the woman finally gave up. She could not
take the pressure of the public as well as big family of her boy friend’s that
wanted her to leave. The family wanted him to find girls of his age to settle
down.
I
began to think that people always consider a young woman is for old men but not
the contrary. And a mother would feel embarrassed if her son marries to a older
lady that was married before instead of a young girl that has not been married.
It is really unfair. Why even women do such unfair treatment to them? Why men
always win everything? Don’t they understand that even Prophet Muhammad SAW,
himself, married to Khadijah who was fifteen years older and they had such a
happy family?
Being
more curious, I went asking a friend, and this friend answered me that women
would prefer older men mostly than younger men since they want to have a secure
life. They want those men to take care of them, to protect them away from harm
and to spoil them. These qualities are hardly could be found in younger men
since youngsters usually want others to listen to what they want, but hardly
have time to listen to others’.
Further
investigation of mine lead me to another reason is that women worried young men
would not appreciate their relationship as it has to be, since young men do not
care at all about it but their money. Soon after they have what they want from
the women, they would leave them miserable.
In
order to have sufficient answered, again, I went asking another friend the
following day. It was still the same question I asked her and her answer was
the same. Women should not marry younger men since all they want is not love
but money!! What rather shocked me was
her saying that naturally, women looks a bit older than men and people would
laugh them for that. They would say that he should be her younger brother rather
than her husband or boy friend.
So,
which one would you choose? To marry younger men, or older men? The decision is
yours. I believe everybody has their own preference plus a good reason why they
choose it. It is them to live their life
and to have all the sequences. For me, I would rather to choose a man that is about
four or five years older than me, not more than that. Not because I am afraid
of people’s opinion about me, but there are things in life I want to do like
traveling to see beautiful places around the world and have some kids. However,
I also believe in a true relationship requires understanding, wisdom and
thoughtful rather than physical contacts. This would be a reason I do not
choose a man that is much younger than me. That is what I believe.
